<< Back to all Blogs
Login or Create your own free blog
Layout:
Home > The Illusion of Having One's Act Together
 

The Illusion of Having One's Act Together

August 20th, 2013 at 09:43 pm

Yesterday I was tooling around on LinkedIn when I saw an old article on the new way women curse. This article discussed a January Glamour magazine cover in which one of the featured titles was "12 Ways to Get Your Sh*t Together." The LinkedIn article was about the decreasing shock value of expletives. I was more interested in finding out what the article said. Unfortunately Glamour didn't put the content online, however from my Google search, I found many other websites concerning one getting one's "sh*t" together, including an actual website called http://getyourshittogether.org/ which provides guidance on life and death planning that most people neglect when they are healthy but can leave a huge mess for their descendants.

There were a number of other sites that discussed ways in which one can get his or her act together. It was very amusing and somewhat affirming that according to many of these sites, I actually have my act together as I am not on drugs, have a planner and a work bag (!).

As I reflected upon that, I realize that having one's act together is entirely perception. I know many people here may not feel that I have my act together because I buy lunch out. Yet when I chop my fruit in the morning and put it together my brought from home items of whole grain cereal and cottage cheese, many of my colleagues comment on how healthy my breakfast looks.

Also keeping with the "illusion" of having my act together is my planner. I don't have a formal budget but I spend the same on a weekly basis for transportation, food and gym. My expenses decrease when I am not working. In my planner I record all my outstanding debt, when my payments are due and my weekly take home pay. As I make my payments, I subtract the money accordingly from my available money and keep a running tally of what I have left to live on until the next paycheck. I also keep a running tally of my total outstanding debt as well. Since these are all in writing, I can see my progress or lack of progress. Some credit cards have increased while other have decreased. Overall I am $4,000 less in debt than I was the previous year.

In my case, the mere act of writing down my debts and looking at them makes them less scary and manageable. I've been a temp for over five years. Many of my colleagues have put their student loans in forbearance and have watched their loan balances swell. Mine are decreasing and it comforts me that I have been able to make payments on the student loans, and all my other bills, in spite of working as an independent contractor.

2 Responses to “The Illusion of Having One's Act Together ”

  1. CB in the City Says:

    I have a spreadsheet and a train bag, does that count? And of course I don't do drugs, other than the occasional Advil.

    I remember when Glamour would never have used such a headline! How times have changed.

  2. soogar Says:

    Charlies Blog on not using drugs as a crucial step for getting one's act together:
    http://charliebroadway.blogspot.com/2009/09/how-to-get-your-shit-together.html

    We take it for granted that we don't have drug addictions, but for people with drug addictions, that's such a crucial first step.

    Expletives may have lost their shock value in the media, however most people are deeply offended when someone uses expletives, especially in the work place. Also people who use expletives are viewed as crass.

    I use my share of crass words in a given day, however when I hear other people use foul language it sounds shocking and vulgar. I try to keep that in mind when I feel a bad word coming out.

Leave a Reply

(Note: If you were logged in, we could automatically fill in these fields for you.)
*
Will not be published.
   

* Please spell out the number 9.  [ Why? ]

vB Code: You can use these tags: [b] [i] [u] [url] [email]